In this installment of the author interview series, I have with me Tasher, an entrepreneur and the author of “Divorced and Scared No More! Bk 1: Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced,” “Divorced and Scared No More!: Practical Advice for the Newly Divorced,” and “Divorced and Scared No More!: Dating after Divorce From Lemons to Zesty Lemon Sorbet.”
Tell us a little about yourself and your background.
I was born in Flint, Michigan to Mary and Houston Asher. I have an older brother named C. Robert Asher. We lived on a farm in Linden, Michigan until I was in middle school, at which time my family moved to the suburbs of Flint so my parents could be closer to the factories they worked in. Mom worked for Chevrolet at the Metal Fab plant and Dad worked in Buick City on the North end.
I understand that you suffer from Dyslexia. How have you dealt with it?
I suffered from undiagnosed dyslexia until my high school teacher, Ms. Burdick, recognized the symptoms and sent me for diagnosis. Ms. Burdick had a big impact on forming my view of the reading disorder. She taught me how to use various strategies and techniques along with technical aids to help with the management of dyslexia. Within a short time, she taught me how it really was a gift that I just needed to learn to control. After learning to control my gift, my grades quickly improved and I graduated Ainsworth High School with a scholarship. I attended Northwood University in Midland, Michigan and graduated in four years with three degrees. Upon graduation, I was hired by General Motors Corporation in their Memphis Zone. So I really don’t look at dyslexia as a challenge – rather as my gift.
What got you interested in writing?
I have dyslexia and writing is something everyone told me I couldn’t do – especially my ex. So, after my divorce, and with the encouragement of friends, family and my divorce attorney, I decided it was time to try.
What inspired you to write the Divorce and Scared No More series and start the website?
I married my ex-husband on January 14, 1984, in Columbus, Mississippi. We had 3 children together. He was a pilot in the U.S. Air Force and we relocated from Columbus, Mississippi to San Antonio, Texas. That's when I decided to quit my job as a district manager for General Motors Parts Division and became a stay at home mother. We got divorced on our twenty-sixth wedding anniversary – January 14, 2010. After moving to Houston, I launched the website and became a frequent contributor to various online magazines. Along with co-author Tony Haynes, I published a 3 book series called “Divorced and Scared No More.” My main objective in writing this series was to help others deal with divorce. I consulted therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC as a technical advisor for the series.
How did you come up with the title?
The name of the series is a continuation of my website. I named the website as a way to help people understand that there's no reason to be scared after a divorce. I wanted to help them understand that now is the time to make your life yours and do what you want – the time to create a life where you are in control. If you need help, look to your higher power to forge a new life you will enjoy.
How did you come up with the logo for your books and your website?
The logo design is a broken set of pilot's wings. My ex-husband was a pilot. When they get their first set of wings in the U.S. Air Force, they break them in half and give one half to someone they love. They throw the other half away. The point being that those wings will never come together again. Just like our marriage after the divorce.
What do you like to do when you’re not writing?
My daughter and two grandchildren live in the Houston area near me. I love to watch the wee ones’ activities in my spare time. My family is my world and I enjoy spending as much time with them as I can.
What tips or words of encouragement do you have for other writers?
No matter what your challenge is while writing, stick with your passion. Do not listen to others who say you can’t. If they say you cant, think to yourself: “Wanna bet?” You can do anything you want to do, just be prepared to work a little harder or to find tools that can help you.
You are an inspiration. Thank's for joining me tonight.
That's all folks. Pick up your copy of Divorce and Scared No More today.